Getting married to the love of your life is one of the best decisions anyone can make. However, putting the blessings of marriage aside, there are some things one could do during their single years that will always be missed. Here are twelve little things married people on an online forum confess they miss about being single.
1. Last-Minute Plans
Remember when being single meant you could decide to do something on a whim without any prior planning? A user misses being able to go somewhere ten minutes after deciding they want to. “That’s my only regret. It’s not marriage that stopped it, though. It’s the kids.”
2. Lost and Found
Welcome to married life, where things mysteriously disappear. A user shares one thing his wife does that is a head-scratcher. “I’ll put my old shoes on the basement steps for when I need to quickly run out to throw garbage, but she’ll always take them down to the basement at the bottom of the stairs. Why can’t I leave those things there?”
3. Peace and Quiet
When marriage and having kids come into the picture, having a quiet house becomes a luxury. A member mentions how everything is amplified with three other people living with them, but they wouldn’t trade it for being single.
4. Pin Drop Silence
Who doesn’t love some downtime after a day of hard work? Many miss being able to come home from work and not speak a single word. A woman shares how she and her husband have socially demanding jobs.
Hence, they’ve agreed that they’ll sit in silence together (or separately) for the first hour and just do their own thing. Quietly. “It’s wonderful,” she remarks.
5. 3:00 AM Snack Showdown
Folks miss never having to be accountable for random things they do around the house. “It’s not like my spouse particularly cares what I do in that sense, but I’d rather no one know I got up at 3:00 AM and was eating ice cream or whatever.”
6. No Explanations
During college and days of early employment, many have been through the motions of getting takeout and not cleaning up days without any explanation. Marriage changes that as now you have to justify yourself to another adult if you’re getting takeout two days in a row or hanging out in bed until two in the afternoon on a Saturday without anyone hassling you.
7. The Lone Walker
A member shares how she is the type of person who needs to walk outside once a day at the bare minimum, or else she gets “stir-crazy.” However, she feels bad sometimes because all her partner wants to do is chill in bed. Yet, it’s quite adorable that he’d always accompany her on walks.
8. Decision Debacle
When living a single life, one is free from considering others while making a decision. Those choices could range from small things, such as what to eat for breakfast, all the way up to where you’ll live and work five years from now. “The really strange thing: it’s also the best part of having a partner.”
9. The Rush of “Firsts”
While the charm of being wed to the love of your life is evergreen, there is something about first times that can never be replicated. Many mention first date nervousness, among other milestones such as holding hands for the first time, first kisses, and more.
A member recalls missing getting ready and going to the venue, waiting excitedly for her partner, and being surprised by what the other is wearing while exchanging happy smiles when they spot each other.
10. Me, Myself, and I
When you’re single, the only person worrying about you is you. However, with marriage, things change drastically as you now have a partner who will check in on you frequently and express their worries.
The feeling of not worrying someone or telling them your whereabouts is liberating. However, despite the constraints, a user ironically likes this part about marriage.
11. Friendship Frenzy
Hanging out with friends is a highlight of single life. While still possible to do so after marriage, the guilt that accompanies it can often make you feel sour. It’s the feeling of leaving your partner behind to have fun with your friends that becomes an ache for many.
12. Cleaning Conundrum
During your bachelor years, the only person you have to clean up after is yourself. However, with marriage, you enter the world of a shared lifestyle and responsibilities. Now, you and your partner have to care for each other, which is also the best bit about being married.
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