Sister Announced Pregnancy at Her Wedding, and She Is Furious – But Do Circumstances Trump Etiquette?

The wedding day is significant for the couple; some brides have been looking forward to it for a long time. Scratch that. Some brides have been looking forward to it all their lives. 

As a special event, they want to be the spotlight of the day and even the days leading up to it. They are not wrong to wish so. However, as much as it must sting, it is essential to remember that the world does not revolve around one person. This is a classic tale of a woman and her bridezilla sister who forgot that.  

A Special Guest 

We’ll call this woman Sara, and her sister, Judy, for the sake of their story. Sara and Judy are so close that Judy was the first person Sara told, asides from her husband when she found out she was pregnant. Their sisterly bond is often enviable. 

She wanted to tell their parents and her husband’s parents around the 10th week, but Judy convinced her to wait until her wedding in September, when she would be four months in. Anything for a sister, yeah?

Additionally, Judy thought it would be special if she made an announcement about a “special guest” at her wedding, which sounds sweet. It would be her first niece or nephew and their parents’ first grandbaby, so it was bound to be a touching surprise, and Sara was happy to do it for her. 

The First Trimester 

Pregnancy is filled with many emotions for a woman; sometimes, it gets overwhelming. Talking to one’s mother makes things significantly better. 

Well, the first trimester was awful for Sara. There were bouts of morning sickness and exhaustion, and she would have preferred to talk to her mother about it, but she was willing to endure for her sister. 

Change of Plans

It was finally D-day, a day Sara was probably looking forward to just as much as Judy. Halfway through the wedding night, Sara asked her sister when the announcement was happening… it was happening, right?

You know how they say promises are made to be broken? I wish they weren’t. Judy had changed her mind, stating her wedding didn’t seem like a good time or place to announce her sister’s pregnancy. How ridiculous does that sound? 

Sara was distraught, especially because she had a really awful first trimester and only had her sister and husband to lean on. She decided she wasn’t putting the announcement on hold any longer for her sister’s sake, and she and her husband pulled her parents aside and quietly told them.

They also asked them to keep it private for the evening. “They were thrilled, lots of hugs, a few tears, but a very touching and private moment.”

No one else found out until she announced it a week later on Facebook.

Sisters Fall Out 

This was where things got rough. Sara’s sister found out that she told their parents at the wedding, which did not go well. So she texted her and called her names for making her wedding about her. Since then, she hasn’t spoken to her. 

Judy seems completely unreasonable to make a comment like that, especially considering she went back on her word, downplaying what Sara had to go through for that first trimester.

Still, Sara has messaged her and apologized multiple times, but she refuses to talk to her. She also refuses to visit her nephew, Sara’s child, who is now almost a month old. 

Was what she did so terrible that she deserved that kind of treatment from a sister close to her? 

Their parents and her husband think she did nothing wrong since Judy failed to honor her word. They tell her to wait it out and that Judy will come around, but Sara isn’t so sure with the way her sister is acting. 

What People Think 

Judy was being inconsiderate and selfish, wouldn’t you agree? Her sister put off the announcement for four months, only for her to change her mind at the last minute.

She didn’t grab a mic, announce to everyone, and steal the thunder at the wedding; she quietly told their parents. 

Many people think Judy was never going to make that announcement and wanted all the focus before and during the wedding to be on her. 

Another person adds that if she meant to make the announcement, she would not have reacted so badly when she found out what Sara did. They think Sara likely has a “manipulative narcissist” for a sister.

Finally

What hurts most is how close the sisters were and how Judy’s anger for something her sister did has stopped her from seeing her nephew one month after he was born — that’s crazy!

As everyone said, she should have come around by now and resolved issues with her sister, even though she thought her sister was still wrong. People make mistakes all the time, and forgiveness should come second nature — especially with someone you care about or, in this case, used to.

What do you think about Sara’s story? Was she wrong, or was her sister to blame?

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