Bitter Pills to Swallow: 10 Harsh Truths That Lead to a Better Life
1. Rejection is Okay
Rejection is a part of life. Waltzing through life with a fear of rejection hinders your quality of life and stunts your growth. If Taylor Swift had given up on music due to rejection, she wouldn’t sell out stadiums today.
Rejection in work and life is commonplace, and everyone deals with rejection. The best way to deal with rejection is to accept that it happens and let it fuel your future. Did your dream job turn you down? Take your energy into the application and work twice as hard to find an even better dream job.
2. Life is Too Short
Life is way too short to care about what others think. If you spend your life avoiding people or situations in fear of what others may think, you won’t ever leave the house. So instead, make a list of priorities, wants, and needs for your life, and stick to it.
If you want to travel the world, do it. Maybe your family and friends will tell you that you need to settle down and start a family, but if that isn’t something you want, don’t listen to them.
No one wants to be on their deathbed, wishing they lived differently.
3. Failing is a Part of Life
You will fail in life. Over and over. Babies don’t listen to others who harp on their failures or let other people’s opinions sway their desire to speak or walk. Even babies fail when learning to walk and talk, but they get back up and try again.
Failing is a part of learning, but quitting leads to regret. You can’t succeed everywhere on the first try. You need to devote time and energy to every craft.
4. Success is Difficult
Who doesn’t want to succeed? I’ve never met someone who strives to fail. However, I have run into people who want to succeed but want to avoid facing the harsh reality that comes with success. Let’s say you want to be a successful author. You write a few drafts of a book during the hours you aren’t working your day job and send it to publishers.
Each time you receive a rejection letter, you revise and revise until you’re satisfied with the new draft. You focus on your rewrite and tune out plans, friends, and family to create the perfect draft.
Once a publisher accepts the book, you navigate paperwork, distribution deals, and marketing before the book hits the shelves. You’ve put thousands of dollars, countless hours, and tears into your work in the hope that the book will sell.
If the book fails, you repeat the process until you find your breakthrough, but to do so, you must be ready to put in the work.
5. You Can Only Control Yourself
You can’t control external factors like natural disasters, emergencies, or the economy, so don’t try to. The only person you can control is yourself and how you respond. For example, if someone thinks a certain way about you, the only thing you can do is let them. If they try to talk to you, act cordially and smile.
6. You Will Always Have Fear, Do it Anyway
Don’t let fear dictate your day-to-day life. Say you want to go skydiving. Jumping out of a plane is terrifying, even to the most seasoned skydivers. The best advice for dealing with fear is to acknowledge it and do the activity anyway. One person says that instead of saying they’re nervous, they’re excited before completing a daunting task.
7. Always Rest
Even though we live in a go-go-go world, you must rest and reheal your body. Never feel selfish for taking time to cool down or sleep instead of going out and exerting yourself.
8. Avoid Negativity
You are who you surround yourself with. Eating dinner with friends who complain about everything causes you to complain about the menu, and that negativity spills into other areas of life.
Constant exposure to negativity leads to negative outlooks and experiences. Surround yourself with positive people with similar perspectives on life. They will lift your spirits and help you achieve your goals.
9. Not Everyone Will Like You
Everyone has an enemy, and that’s okay. People with different interests and opposing values fill the world. Accepting that not everyone will like you makes it much easier to accept yourself and tap into your honest self.
10. You Can Move on From Old Friends
Eddie from childhood may have been your best friend for 20 years, but it is okay to grow apart. Moving on doesn’t mean you dislike the person or forget about them, just that you are two different people now. People develop new interests and hobbies throughout life, and that growth leads to change.
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