When Baby Names Ignite Battles: A Couple’s Unexpected Disagreement
Mary and John were bubbling with joy as they counted the days to welcome their little bundle of happiness. They had been dreaming about this moment, and every tiny preparation filled their hearts with warmth. However, a storm brewed on the horizon when they sat down to pick a name for their awaited joy. Mary had a name close to her heart, but John couldn’t help but chuckle when he heard it. Suddenly, what was supposed to be a sweet, memorable discussion turned into a debate neither had anticipated. As we unfold their tale, you’ll see how something as simple as choosing a name stirred unexpected emotions and challenged their harmonious journey into parenthood.
Naming the Bundle of Joy
One day, while lying in bed together, the wife suddenly got up and brought out a gift box with ribbons and bows. The man assumed it was his present, but inside was a blue onesie with the name “Bartholomew” stitched on it. The wife excitedly told him that that would be their son’s name, after her late grandfather, whom she was close to.
His Reaction
John laughed at the name, and when the wife saw his reaction, she became quiet and started to cry. Finally, he tried to reason with her, suggesting that the name was outdated and that she should consider choosing a more modern name.
Mary was offended and accused John of judging their son before he was even born. Finally, she stormed out of the room and went to stay with her mother. Later, Mary’s father called John to scold him for upsetting Mary, calling him immature and a joke.
John’s Concerns
John is shocked that his wife is serious about naming their son Bartholomew, and he cannot believe she would choose such an outdated name. However, he realizes that he may have hurt her feelings and caused a rift between them, and he feels regretful.
While he had agreed that he’d let Mary name the baby since she was the one giving birth, he still didn’t want his child to bear that as a name.
He felt naming their child would be special for her, so he trusted she’d call their son something at least “normal,” but he’s not sure anymore. Here is how the internet responded.
You Can’t Go Back On Your Promise
Someone thinks that since John already promised her that she would get to pick the name, it would be unfair to go back on that promise now, two weeks from her due date.
It was also wrong that he laughed in her face when she was so excited. John could have put the brakes on in a calm manner and discussed it like an adult if he wanted to break his promise.
But no, he made her feel less, thereby disrespecting her choice. Besides, it shouldn’t have come as a total shocker to John that she wanted to name the child after a family member dear to her.
There Are Ways Around It
Several users think that Mary and John can come to a compromise. According to an individual, the couple could give the kid a “more normal” name as the first name and the meaningful family “clunker” as the second.
If the kid chooses to use his middle name, they always can. Another way is to adopt the nickname Bart, which sounds more fun.
What About Bullying?
Are they opening their child to bullying by sticking to that name? Well, one person projects that the son will feel like his dad someday when he gets bullied regularly because mom chose the name, forgetting kids can be mean. And weird names mean their kid will get mean nicknames.
Another person has a different opinion from their experience. They say growing up in the States with a “weird African name” that people still mispronounce didn’t get them bad nicknames more than any other kid with a “normal” name. Granted, kids can be cruel and rude, but they can also be chill and kind.
Not A Bad Name Afterall
Some users, surprisingly, found the name Bartholomew to be far more palatable than all the Ayden, Brayden, Cayden, Fayden, Jayden, Layden, Mayden, Slayden, and Waydens. According to them, older classic names are starting to make a comeback.
One soon-to-be-mom said, “I’ve been looking for names because I’m pregnant, and the number of people who are looking at Victorian names because they are annoyed with the Braydens, Kaydens, and Neveah’s is actually really high.” What are your thoughts about this situation?
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