As much as it is essential to know what is attractive in a partner, it’s also helpful to be aware of significant turn-offs so that issues can be avoided. An online community of men reveals ten things that made them lose interest in a romantic partner.
1. Lack of Communication
The most crucial aspect of any relationship is communication. Hence, it wasn’t surprising that a lack of communication was a major downer for most men.
One person shares how he lost interest in a woman after she started being less responsive via text and email. She would also leave out significant details of her plans, making this member think the relationship “isn’t worth putting up with.”
2. Self-proclaimed Weirdness
We all have our quirks, but overdoing the weirdness to appear more interesting can be plain annoying. One man was thrown off when a woman kept insisting she was “weird.” Saying you don’t like pop music or “girly” things only makes you a try-hard.
3. Maturity Mishap
There’s nothing better than a partner who is mature and wise. Hence, when one commenter realized he had mistaken a woman’s lack of intellect for her being mysterious and exciting, they were disappointed to discover she was just “plainly stupid” a few months into the relationship.
4. Low Effort
“To me, the single most attractive feature a girl can have is that she’s into me, and when I start doubting that, it gets pretty emotionally exhausting for me to put effort into the relationship,” shares one member. Such low effort can be shown through inadequate communication, lack of initiation, and poor planning.
5. Second Place
No one is really a fan of feeling like a “backup plan” in a relationship. As one person comments, “Constantly reminding me that I’m one of many options is not a motivator for me. Oh really, I’m an applicant in a pool of 10?” It won’t be too long before it’s reduced to a pool of nine.
While confidence is an attractive attribute, being borderline narcissistic doesn’t settle too well with most commenters. Self-centeredness in a partner who’s constantly thinking about themselves can make the other party feel neglected and even disrespected. The needs and wants of both sides are equally valid.
7. One-sided Games
Countless men share their distaste for mind games. No one wants a partner who is manipulative and abusive. Resorting to psychological tactics to influence another person’s behavior will only ruin your chances at love.
8. Entitlement Entanglement
In a balanced relationship, no single party is the sole provider. It’s teamwork, and everything from finances to emotional labor is to be shared. Believing you can reap the rewards without putting in the necessary effort is a major deterrent for most.
9. Hypocrisy Heist
When your words don’t match your actions, an air of mistrust is created within a relationship. That’s the last thing you want! Expecting a certain kind of treatment but not returning the favor was the last straw for one member.
10. Clinginess Conundrums
Communication is great, but having a timer for the replies irritates most men. One person mentioned his frustration when his partner would get angry at his late responses, although she knew he was busy with work.
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