Honesty is often championed as the cornerstone of strong relationships. Yet, there’s a delicate balance between transparency and discretion. Not every truth deserves a spotlight, and some secrets, as many have found, are best kept close to the heart. Here’s a compilation of those confessions that might be better left unsaid.
1. Your Angry Thoughts
It’s easy to spill what’s on your mind in a fit of rage. But the outcome isn’t as glorious as you’d think. Instead, it would cause a rift in your relationship even though it had seemed reasonable a while ago.
It’s best to keep your angry thoughts in your mind and gently speak to your partner when you’ve cooled off. You’ll find you’ve averted an issue from your angry words. Consider taking lessons from Bruce Banner.
2. The Relative Or Friend That Dislikes Them
Some things are better left in the dark, and as long as you say nothing about this, you could save your partner from negative feelings. But once they know, it makes your partner uncomfortable in these individuals’ presence. Remember that human emotions change, and they may get to like your partner someday.
3. Their Insecurities
After spending a long time with your partner, you’ll learn of their insecurities. It could be snorty laughter or a receding hairline. Never let them know you’re aware of it.
Allow them to enjoy the illusion of an almost-perfect appearance to you. Sometimes it can be tempting to make a joke or use it against them in an argument. Don’t do it.
4. Therapy Session Content
Whatever is discussed during the therapy sessions remains there. It is better to seal your lips about it. You can stick with a general response like, “It was emotionally draining, but we’re making progress,” when asked how it was. Just don’t give specifics; your partner isn’t your doctor.
Always keep this information to yourself to save your relationship. It is possible that they can’t handle the news yet.
5. Other People’s Secrets
You’ve been entrusted with a secret and not a gossip topic. It’s not yours to tell, so please keep it private. Your partner may not be good at keeping such information. If you cannot keep it to yourself, it may cost you your image and relationship with whoever trusted you.
You’ll also gain newfound respect from your partner when you do this. They will find it easier to trust you with their secrets as well.
6. Past Trauma Details
It’s good to inform your partner of certain bits of your life. However, there are some experiences you have to take to the grave, especially when they can cost you your relationship.
Although, you can open up to them slowly until you are comfortable. But there are some things you should keep to yourself. It’s advisable to seek help from medical professionals to deal with trauma. You’ll find that your relationship will get better from this effort.
7. Previous Relationships
Avoid comparing your present partner with your old relationship. It isn’t healthy and might hurt their feelings. Instead, it’s best to avoid speaking about your old relationship and stick with the present. This will save you a lot of drama and preserve your romance.
8. Poop Time Details
Avoid sharing the bathroom while doing your business. The stink can be terrible and annoying to inhale. You don’t even like the smell of your poop — why subject your partner to it? Although if you’re both comfortable with it, then I guess that’s alright.
9. Number of Intimate Partners
There’s no reason to bring it up other than medical. So keep it from your significant other. It’s in the past, and they don’t need to hear about it, and you shouldn’t even be talking about it because all that matters now is your current partner.
10. Doubts About Their Capabilities
Let the doubts stay in your mind, and never voice them out loud. Cheer your partner on and let them know you’re rooting for them. It’ll make them feel good about themselves.
You can guide them through their ideas to help make them a reality. This way, you’d increase their self-esteem and build their trust in you. There are cases when you think it might be bad. You can gently inform your partner of your fears but be careful not to let them know of your doubt.
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