For many women, searching for the ideal spouse is a lesson in patience – and stress. However, while no partner is perfect, there are plenty of traits that women look for in their future mates. This topic was the subject of a recent article that is very eye-opening for anyone still searching for their forever love.
Unsurprisingly, honesty tops the list of most desired traits in future spouses. After all, who would want to marry somebody who is deceitful and untrustworthy?
2. Conflict Resolution Skills
Although arguments and fights happen in every relationship, a partner must have the skills to navigate through them. “The ability to work through a disagreement calmly and rationally is vital,” says one woman. “It shows you can view problems as ‘us vs. the problem’ not ‘me vs. you.'”
Being supportive of one’s needs, especially regarding mental health, screams “I’m spouse material” in the eyes of countless women. But, honestly, the inverse is also true – many men look for women who will have their backs in a moment of need.
You’d be hard-pressed to find a woman who will put up with an immature partner. In the end, it just isn’t worth their time. Just someone who’s got his act together, is after something long term and serious, has the maturity to work through stuff, and is ready to share his life,” reveals one woman.
The ability to put yourself in someone else’s shoes and see things from their perspective is a quality that only some partners have. Having this trait can be the difference between being looked at as someone who is part of a woman’s future.
6. Being an Active Participant
Both partners must never rest on their laurels and become complacent – being active in the relationship is paramount. “I find it incredibly attractive when someone steps up to actively participate in the relationship,” says one woman. “It lets me know they are in it just as much as I am, and it signals to me that they would be a good long-term life partner.”
If your future partner is focused on something other than the well, future, what’s the point of being with them? Finding somebody who sets goals – and hopefully meets those goals – is a crucial trait most women look for in prospective partners.
Finding a person who is always thinking of how to brighten up your day is something that’s consistently on the minds of many women. “I’d been dating my now-husband for only about a month when a bark box delivery started showing up at my house for my dog,” says a happily-married woman. “He was just so thoughtful and generous.”
9. Quiet Confidence
Nobody wants to be with a loud, arrogant, and selfish person. Having quiet confidence is a good indicator of emotional maturity. It goes a long way toward making your partner more confident in the relationship and where it’s headed.
10. Helping Out Around the House
Just a heads up, gentlemen: women appreciate it when you pitch in around the house! “I (a woman) am a bit retentive and like to keep my home cleaned as much as I can,” one person admits.
“Doing dishes as soon as possible, vacuuming at least once a week, dusting shelves before they get dusty, etc. If my partner steps up and does one without me asking, I feel like they really see me and respect our space together.”
11. Willingness To Improve
As I wrote earlier, nobody is perfect. However, this shouldn’t stop any partner from chasing that dream of perfection in relationships. On the contrary, a constant willingness to improve sends a positive signal to your partner that will be appreciated – and reciprocated.
12. Good Communication
Spoiler alert: if you’re an excellent communicator, you will succeed in relationships. As any woman will tell you, being open, honest, and willing to discuss any topic is essential to a healthy relationship.
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