Nothing creates quite as much excitement and anxiety for a couple as their wedding day. It is the one day they have been thinking about since the very moment they decided to make it official.
Before their weddings, most brides transform into bridezillas. It’s totally normal due to the stress and pressure they must be under. But that’s not always the case. Some brides change so drastically before their wedding day that it could lead their partner to wonder if they are the same person they fell in love with.
Here’s one such tragic story, and how it started.
OP and his fiancée, Lily, have been together for three years. They are currently planning their wedding. Lily grew up fantasizing about her future wedding (didn’t we all?), so she’s very excited about it. Every woman can relate to that — dreaming about the wedding day since forever and willing to kill anyone who stands in the way.
But OP has some concerns with her pre-wedding attitude. FYI, “pre-wedding attitude” refers to the “kill anyone who stands in the way” part. Apparently, his fiancée has become obsessed with the planning, so much so that she gets visibly annoyed when he gives his input on anything.
It makes OP really upset because it’s his wedding, too, and he wants to join in the planning, but she refuses to acknowledge the choices he makes.
A Huge Fight
For some unknown reason, she really hates his brother. When he asked why, all she said was that he was just really annoying. It’s not unusual to sometimes hate people for no reason. But since he was going to be her brother-in-law, I think she needed a more solid reason than “he was just annoying.”
She freaked out when he told her that he was a groomsman. She told him he had to make him a normal guest because she would be uncomfortable with him there. Then she suggested that he had to choose another person to take his place as groomsman because it was her wedding day and she deserves to be happy. That’s a dangerous card she’s playing.
As expected, it resulted in a huge fight between them. He ended up venting to his parents about his frustrations because Lily was refusing to listen to him.
A Heated Dinner
Yesterday, he and Lily went to dinner with his parents and the topic of the wedding came up. Someone play Heated by Beyoncé. Even though OP shared the short version of the story, one can tell how heated the dinner became. They ended up yelling at each other about everything that happened and his mother called Lily a controlling b***h.
Now, Lily is demanding that he uninvite his parents, but he does not want to. It does seem pretty unreasonable, considering they are his parents and they have probably been looking forward to the day just as much as she has.
His parents are asking him to reconsider the relationship, and his brother thinks Lily has “lost her marbles.” Now, he’s curious to know if he’s the problem for not wanting to uninvite his parents from his wedding.
What People Think
Everyone is on OP’s side. It is his big day, too. Why should his parents not get to be a part of it? They think that she’s controlling and inconsiderate. One person even said he needs to uninvite her. Hilarious but true.
u/TheRestForTheWicked shared the story of his friend who “married a Lily”:
“I have a friend who married a Lily.
It irreversibly damaged his relationship with his parents because they’re ‘too embarrassing’ to do anything with (but apparently they’re good enough to babysit for her all weekend every weekend when he works so she can do whatever the f–k it is that she does instead of spending it with her kid). He’s now in therapy for depression while his ‘Lily’ talks about it in depth on social media for likes without his permission.”
In that case, I think OP needs to run for his dear life.
Another person shared a different story of someone they know who married a Lily:
“One of my husband’s cousins married a Lily. He and his parents are some of the most miserable people I know. As much as we feel sorry for them, my husband can’t call, text, or visit his cousin without Lily throwing a tantrum, so now we only see them at the annual family gathering. My husband is sad about it but there’s very little we can do.”
OP came back to say that he’s reconsidering the relationship and would likely break things off with Lily because she’s not the same person he fell in love with. That sounds like the best option to me. He’s in a get-out-while-you-can scenario and he must do his best to get out while he can. Share your thoughts!
This thread inspired this post.