As important as the wedding day is, and as careful as the soon-to-be couple may be to ensure that their day goes perfectly, some things would always be out of their control. Nine times out of ten, bad things happen when people try to control every single thing, especially when it comes to their wedding.
It gets worse when what they are trying to control affects their partner, yet they continue, focusing more on themselves. The marriage may already be off to a bad start.
The problem is OP has OCD. It also means he’s a perfectionist and is fixated on certain details, which may seem irrelevant to the common person. He gets really anxious and uncomfortable when he can’t fix details to his liking.
He tried to find an extra groomsman to even the numbers, but the struggle is he is not a very sociable person, nor does he have a large group of close friends. He couldn’t find anyone else who could fill the position.
OP came up with a solution to the problem. He told his fiancée to drop one of her bridesmaids from the line-up. Imagine saying that to a bride-to-be who has probably been fantasizing about this day for a very long time. He thought she would understand his plight because she knows how much he struggles with OCD.
He feels like she’s being unreasonable, especially when he knows that she’s not that close to two of her bridesmaids. He thinks she could easily drop one of her friends from the line-up and just invite them as normal wedding guests without causing too much drama.
The imbalance would eat at him and make him anxious throughout the wedding, but he claims his fiancée is refusing to see his side of the situation. She’s putting her foot down and denying his request.